Have Your Cake And Eat It, Too: How to Be Multi-Passionate

afternoon tea, eating cake, scones and cream

There seems to be quite a trend in finding one’s “niche”; whether that be in the blogging community or outside of it, people are always telling others that they should just stick to one thing and focus on that rather than be a Jill of all trades.

This really sucks for people like me who get easily bored. Sticking to just one thing isn’t possible. For me, life is like afternoon tea; it has many tiers filled with lots of sweet surprises. Are you really going to stick to just the one level – the sandwiches on the bottom – when you have this whole platter of cakes in front of you? To stick to just one passion, because that’s what people tell you to do?

Well I say screw that, I want to have my cake and eat it, too.

It was hard, though, because (like when eating afternoon tea) I did start to get a bit nauseous and tired and had to take a break for a while. But I began to learn when that’s about to happen and finally had a firm grip on exactly how to tackle each tier of cakes/passions. I’ve spent months trying to figure out the best way to handle my multi-passionate nature and took a lot of mental notes along the way until they finally found themselves in this blog posts.

So, here goes… Here’s what I’ve learnt.

Is Being Gyaru Lonely?

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I know what you’re thinking – Is it even possible to feel lonely doing/being gyaru? Gyaru is, after all, a fashion, so how can you feel lonely by just wearing different clothes?

For me, gyaru is more than that. It’s what made me fall in love with Japan in general and accept my ‘kawaii’ side unapologetically. I don’t think I’d ever have the courage to use Rilakumma stationery at work if it wasn’t for gyaru (even though gyaru technically doesn’t have anything to do with it). Gyaru gives such a confidence boost, and the makeup is my war paint.

summer gyaru coord

summer gyaru

Dress: eBay

Accessories: Muse

Sandals: New Look

Hat: Haven’t a clue

Bag: Primark

Sunglasses: Accessorize

outfit details

onee gyaru

onee gyaru, summer coord

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But it’s one thing dressing up and taking pictures in your gyaru gear vs actually going out and hanging out with other gyaru. To be surrounded by others to talk about things we’ve seen lately (like Sakurina’s new brand Riina Couture) or to help each other out in improving our style. Gyaru has always been a mainly internet-based style, and we tend to just communicate over FB/Twitter/Insta with the occasional gyaru meet here and there. I’ve always dreamed of the day that I could just hop over to a fellow gyaru’s house just for a casual hangout in our PJs and watching cheesy chic flicks rather than travel (what seems like) thousands of miles to see them.

So yes, being gyaru it is quite lonely.

If there was an easy way to feel less lonely then I’d be all over it. But in the meantime I’d say that the way to combat this loneliness is to just keep on being present, whether that’s on the internet or in the real world. Post those selfies, those outfit photos, and be effortlessly you in your style. Hell, start a blog! Get gyaru on the map but don’t feel disheartened if it doesn’t work out… As long as you’re having fun and not forcing yourself to be gyaru for gyaru’s sake, than that’s all that matters, right?

Do you ever feel lonely being/doing gyaru (or any other alternative fashions)?

Lizzie Bee xx

Low Maintenance Gyaru

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The first thing I fell in love with when I first discovered gyaru was how easy it was to incorporate it into everyday life. Back then EGG magazine was huge, and it was all about wearing casual attire and amping it up with amazing hair and makeup. It was, all in all, pretty low maintenance but effortlessly gyaru, and I loved that.

A few years down the line it got more and more complicated to do. Straight hair wasn’t really done much and was replaced with elaborate curls and really exaggerated makeup. I would like to say that it wasn’t because of Black Diamond or of outside opinions, but it really was. People didn’t think of others as gyaru anymore unless they looked like they were out of Black Diamond or very dramatic in their style. The everyday gyaru died because we were pressurising everyone to look over-the-top.

casual gyaru coord

shakespeare's house, stratford

Sweater: DaTuRa

Top: Skinny Lip (I think)

Jeans & boots: Boohoo

casual gaijin gyaru

I admit that I felt the same, too. I didn’t really think you were gyaru unless you had the full gyaru makeup on and styled hair. Wearing MA*RS with casual makeup? Erm, hell no! I started taking ages to get ready in the mornings and at one point it would take me 2 hours just to be dolled up to go to the cinema.

And it was such a waste of time.

I’ve learnt that time is of the essence as I got older, and I caught onto the ‘toning down’ trend. At first I hated it, but now I can’t get enough of it. It was almost as if we are going back to the older gyaru stages where we would wear ‘ordinary’ clothes and just lightly curled our hair and were called gyaru. And I love it.

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It doesn’t matter if you are over-the-top or super-toned-down, all maintenances of gyaru is still gyaru. You can be gyaru with elaborate curls, but you can also be gyaru with straightened hair. You can be gyaru if you’re head-to-toe in brand but can also be gyaru with offbrand items. We have to be more accepting of the ‘casual’ styles in order for the gyaru community to grow bigger again. Make it easier to wear for other people, and more people will join.

What do you think? Would you class yourself as a high-maintence gyaru, or a low-maintence one? (I’m definitely a bit of both, but in this instance I am a very low-maintence gyaru!)

Lizzie Bee xx

This post was inspired by Vanilla Bear.

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One Item Five Ways: White Bejewelled DaTuRa Hoodie

Aaaand I’m back with another ‘one item five ways‘ post! It’s been a while since I’ve last written one of these (nearly a year?) and I’m honestly ashamed of myself. But this year will be different! Call it the whole ‘new year, new me’ vibe that I’ve still got going, but I promise that I will do more of these this year.

Without further ado, this ‘one item five ways’ post will be focussed on this gorgeous white bejewelled hoodie from one of my favourite gyaru brands, DaTuRa. You can easily do any of the below outfits with just an ordinary white hoodie. So here goes!

bejewelled white DaTuRa hoodie

Love Yo’ Self

heart confetti, valentine's day room decor

When people talk about self-love and in “loving yourself” I always thought it meant a trip to the nearby city centre and shopping to your heart’s content. It’s something that I still think about (because you can’t deny that treating yourself to a new dress certainly lifts your mood) however nowadays, it’s something so much more. Loving yourself could be treating yourself to material goods, but it could also mean being happy with the things you’re doing.

Am I Too Old For Gyaru & Jfashion?

carefree gaijin gyaru

The other day it suddenly hit me that I was going to turn 30 in a few years. 30. To me, my thirties would mean settling down in my own home, having a stable job and scariest of all… Children. I am not emotionally nor financially stable for any of that yet, and can’t even look after myself properly let another a mini version of myself. It’s absolutely terrifying, especially when it means that I would probably be too old for gyaru.

Driving Down Memory Lane: My Favourite Gyaru Outfits of All Time

I never thought I would feel it, but I feel old – I can’t keep up with the cool kids anymore and it’s like I’m going through my gyaru granny stage. I wrote in a previous post that I feel like I’m becoming super boring and that I didn’t know what my personal style is anymore. This feeling then pushed me to look back at my old posts and I spent a couple of hours just picking out my favourite outfits. It sparked so many memories – like the time I was on the Hyper Japan catwalk for the very first time, when I did an elegant but rocky look, and when I first started getting into agejo. I have so many good memories of gyaru that I can’t let it go.

So I picked out a few of my favourite outfits and have showcased them below to remind myself that even though I might feel boring, I had a pretty damn good evolution. I’ve grown so much and even though right now I don’t see it, I know that I am more comfortable than I ever was. I’m so much happier.

*post edited: 18th Aug 2021*

2020

Cute pink himekaji outfit for Autumn by hellolizziebee

Childlike Wonder and Adult Responsibilities

Snowy himekaji outfit

One Sunday morning the UK woke up to a world of snow. It had been so long since I’ve seen snow that when I looked outside I was taken over by a childish wonder. No one had stepped out of their warm houses yet but I could sense the excitement building from the way that people were talking about it on social media that I couldn’t help but feel equally giddy to be out in the snow. It didn’t take much encouragement to decide that I wanted to be stereotypical and dress up so that we could take some outfit photos before it all melts away. About an hour later I was ready and feeling pretty, fully layered up in my Liz Lisa coat.

And for a moment, I forgot all of my troubles, and stepped out into the snow.

All I Want for Christmas

decorating christmas tree

… Is for my sanity to be intact, thank you very much. But really, though – when my loved ones ask me what I want for Christmas I would create a blog post and it usually includes a really gorgeous bag, that Hermione Granger wand that I’ve been wanting for ages or some really cute pink things like last year… But I’ve never really thought about the non-material things in life. So I’m shaking things up a little bit on this blog as it’ll be the first year that I won’t be doing a “normal” wishlist, but a list of things I want to happen over Christmas.

Of Vampires and Mary Sues

rokku gyaru, alternative fashion, vampire, killstar

Did you ever used to watch Mona the Vampire? I used to love that program when I was a child, dressing up as her and defeating imaginary monsters. I had an obsession with vampires back then; my favourite film was Van Helsing (looking back now I realise that it wasn’t actually that great a film) and I could quote it word for word with one of my closest friends. I even re-enacted a few scenes – how embarrassing is that? I just loved how no matter how smoking hot and deadly vampires were, they literally did go up in smoke in a little bit of sunlight. They had a weak spot.

Basic Witch

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Dress from Tobi*

There’s a time in everyone’s life where they dabbled in a bit of magic. I was just starting out in secondary school (so around 13 years old) when a sparkly blue cover caught the corner of my eye, and upon pulling it out from where it was crammed on the library shelf I discovered that it was a beginner’s guide to white magic (aka Wicca). It didn’t take me long to check it out and for several months after I was obsessed with it when, like the typical teenager I was, I got bored and it was left to gather dust on my bookshelf.

Crazy, Stupid Owl

owl experience day
When you got the proper glove on but it lands on your arm instead

I feel like this should be a somewhat poetic post or something that resonates with you but really I just wanted to write a post about how much I love owls. I could pretend to be a better blogger by then delving deep into the philosophy behind this feeling; Is it because I love the way their soft feathers brush against my skin even though I cannot myself touch them? Or does it go even deeper and draws a connection with how I love the moonlight and how mysterious it can be?

Nope, I just love owls because they’re stupid.