Love is in the air – and I’ve got so much love for my girl gang! Whether it’s old friends or new, I am so thankful to be surrounded by such inspirational women, and with Valentine’s Day on the horizon I thought I’d write small love letters to each of the women who have shaped my life in a big way.
Gosh, 6 months already. How and when did that happen? It seemed like only yesterday that I was walking (well, more like marching) down the aisle and became a wife that I can hardly believe I am writing this right now. So much has happened since then… So I’ve decided to put together a list of frequently asked wedding questions that you sent to me over on instagram and have answered them below. Enjoy!
Our honeymoon in Marrakesh/Marrakech (Morocco) couldn’t come soon enough. It was a time where I could finally let my hair down and relax after the wedding – and man I really needed it! I was so exhausted from the wedding that I was actually a little bit ill during the first couple of days of our newly wedded life, so any excuse to just lie in the sunbed reading a book was perfect for me. But the adventurer in me did kick in after the second day, and I couldn’t wait to explore!
Let me tell you a secret – weddings in real life are nothing compared to the ones in films/movies. Shocking, right? I don’t know how they managed to make it so exciting in the films but let me tell you, the missed out the key part – just how stressful managing everything can be!
There were a few traditions that we decided to ditch at the altar to make the wedding process a lot smoother.
Wedding Traditions We Ditched at the Altar
01. He didn’t ask for my mum’s permission
When S got down on one knee the first thing I asked was, “Did you ask my parents?” He was a bit taken aback because a) He didn’t really think about it and b) I didn’t say yes immediately. I mean, of course I wanted to marry him, but did he ask my mum’s permission? After thinking about it I realised just how stupid it is. Our parents knew that we were in a strong and loving relationship, so why did S need their permission for?
02. We didn’t invite absolutely everyone
A sure way to cut down your guest list is to have a ‘no ring – no bring’ rule, which is exactly what we did at our wedding. Only two guests at our wedding were able to bring a plus one because they didn’t really know anyone, and I didn’t want them to feel left out! It saved us a lot of stress in the long run. My only advice is to make it absolutely clear on the invitations that you’re not having a plus one – two weeks before our wedding one of our family members assumed he was able to bring a plus one, so it was a bit awkward for us to turn him down. If you’ve been invited to a wedding then always, always ask about plus ones, and if the couple aren’t comfortable with it then respect that decision.
03. My bridesmaids walked down the aisle before me
We followed the American way and had my bridesmaids walk down the aisle before me. If it wasn’t for the fact that I searched for wedding traditions that I realised that this wasn’t the right way – in the UK, the bride usually walks first. It took the pressure off me too and made me feel a lot calmer as I walked down the aisle.
04. I forgot the garter
The whole tradition of having the groom taking off the garter wasn’t really my thing, but it was the only blue item that I had and I was shocked when I realised that I had forgotten it at home. Luckily my engagement ring had a blue stone in it so we were saved!
05. There were no flower girls & page boys
Another tradition we ditched – having flower girls and page boys. It was quite an easy decision for us to make because we didn’t actually know anyone who was at the right age for this.
06. We didn’t have a hen/stag party the night before
I cannot think of a worse thing than to waltz down the aisle with a heavy hangover, so I was glad that we didn’t stick to the tradition of having a hen do the night before the wedding. My MOH planned ours a couple of weeks beforehand, and I had the best time!
07. We didn’t walk down the aisle to traditional music
Instead we opted for “A Thousand Years” by Christina Perri as I walked down the aisle, and then “I’m a Believer” by Smashmouth as we walked back together.
08. There wasn’t an order of service
Whenever I notice that there’s a timetable at the event I always find myself counting down to the most exciting part of the day – lunchtime. I didn’t want everyone to clock-watch at our wedding so we ditched the idea of having an order of service.
09. I held onto my flower bouquet
Usually it’s tradition that I toss my bouquet to a crowd of single ladies, and whoever catches it is going to get married next. However, there was no way that I was going to toss my flower bouquet, especially because Abbie Digweed did such an amazing job with them.
10. We weren’t whisked away on our honeymoon right after the wedding
We spent a few days after the wedding relaxing, and it was during that time that I fell really ill from all of the stress leading up to the big day. So it was a good thing that we didn’t go on our honeymoon straight after!
And that’s it! What wedding traditions did you ditch, or are planning to ditch, on your wedding day?
All photos were taken by the amazing duo Ryan & Sara, who I can’t thank enough.
I have received a new husband; perfectly packaged in a grey suit, waistcoat and with the cutest smile. He was someone that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and seeing as it’s been a few weeks since I’ve received him I thought it was time to write a little review on my experience so far. You can get your own husband from ‘Man’Soon (found next to Accessorize), a brilliant place that I would highly recommend. So, here are my thoughts!
I didn’t believe it when people said that weddings were just a huge, happy blur, but ours really was. It was as if time didn’t really exist for us and everything was done at our own pace. There wasn’t any sense of urgency or rush, and we even had time to eat (something that people said we wouldn’t have time to). It was, as cheesy as it sounds, the best day of my life. And I’m getting major wedding blues already.
The Big Day
It was a blur, a huge blur, but it was the happiest day of my life. I wish I could go back and rewatch everything unravel again: how it didn’t hit me that I was actually getting married until I walked down the aisle with my mum by my side; walking back down with my newly-wedded husband to ‘Believer’ by Smash Mouth; to my father-in-law’s very unexpected impromptu speech; to our first dance to Ed Sheeran’s ‘Perfect’; and to when my grandma ditched her walking stick so that she could join me on the dance floor. It was an absolutely amazing day, and I wouldn’t have changed a thing. Everyone I loved was there, and it was so empowering to be surrounded by their love.
We wanted somewhere that was both beautiful on the inside as well as the outside, because it was going to be Sod’s Law that it would rain on our wedding day. It very nearly did – the days before and after were absolutely miserable, so the weather gods were really smiling upon us when we were greeted by beautiful sunshine. S had actually found Ettington Park Hotel, and we couldn’t have chosen a more perfect place. Our coordinator, Ollie, was an absolute angel and was with us every step of the way.
I wanted to go with a woodland fairy tale theme, but more of the fae kind rather than Disney. It was quite hard to achieve because usually you would want somewhere outdoors if you were doing a woodland theme, but together with my friend Amy we managed to make it work. We adorned bookcases with fake ivy as well as having them trail down our candelabras, and the fairylights hanging across the room really made it look magical. Our florist, Abbie Digweed, did an incredible job by having stag antlers for the centrepiece on the top table, and this was reflected across to our wedding cake (which was done by S’s family members who did an AMAZING job).
Our Wedding Photographers
Ever since I saw their website I knew that Ryan and Sara were the photographers that we wanted for our wedding. I just love their candid style and the type of editing they did, so we immediately contacted them for a skype call. We had an engagement shoot with them before the wedding and they made us feel so at ease – which is amazing because S hates having his photo taken – and they were amazing on our big day.
Me: I want to go with something understated, elegant, and classic… You know, like a fish tail. Something to show off my curves and nothing too over-the-top.
Also me: Comes out with a massive princess dress.
Yep, I had no idea that I would actually ended up choosing a princess dress for our wedding. I got mine from Wed2B and it was fourth dress I had tried on, and even though I tried many others after it I just couldn’t stop going back to it. I tried it on at least three times before firmly deciding that it was the one, and purchased it the same day. It was the first purchase I made after we had placed a deposit on our venue.
Hair & Makeup
Myself and my bridesmaids all had our hair styled by Hair by Harriett, who did an amazing job at producing everlasting. I was astonished – my curls never last, and yet they held for the whole day. We went with a half-do for me with tight curls and a plait/braid running along the top half, together with a pretty hairpiece from KiCrown. My bridesmaids have their hair with plaits running down either side before being tied up into a bun, and they looked so beautiful!
And that’s it! That concludes my wedding day. It was honestly – and I don’t care how much I say it – the happiest day of my life. My biggest advice to you is to never stress the little things, because you don’t really notice them at the end of the day. Focus instead on mingling with your guests and dancing the night away!
Do you have a wedding coming up? Is there any advice that you could give to brides-to-be?
Lizzie Bee xx